Passion...

What does passion look like in a Godly marriage?
Passion... from most secular viewpoints is sex driven.  It is what we see plastered up all around us through adds and marketing because it is taught that "sex sells".  So when we step into a marriage as a Christian, we tend to bring this perspective into it, whether intentionally or unintentionally.  So what does God teach us about the love that is shared between a husband and a wife? 

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 teaches us that "love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." So when we apply what love looks like from God's perspective we no longer will see our spouse as an object of desire or gratification. Instead we see them as an extension of ourselves, loving them as we would want to be loved. It is from this mindset that we begin to love passionately in a way that only can be experienced in a Godly marriage.  It is here that I have seen as a counselor, God heal every part of individuals through the vary person God has brought into their lives, in ways that only could be done through a loving spouse that have their eyes on God.

God also teaches us in 1 John 4:8 that "anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love."  So beginning by asking the question if God has been in your passion, will help you to find the love that God gives us.  It is here that we discover for ourselves the difference between love and lust, as we recognize whether or not if God is in our passion and desire.

So how have you loved?  Are you in a relationship filled with God's love or are you lusting after someone?  No matter what the answer may be, just know that God loves you and wants you to experience His love!  He wants you to focus on Him first in your relationship and believe His words in acknowledging what love is, to experience a passion that only God can give you for your spouse.  I personally have experienced both love and lust, and have learned that love is worth fighting for, and I hope you find that to be true for yourself as well.  Because everyone deserves to be loved!

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